Codependent Daughter

What is detachment?
To relinquish control over someone’s actions you have no control over anyway.

How do I see myself as the controller? What makes me think that worrying will produce any positive results? I believe I’m helping him avoid death by doing this. But he’s my father - he’s supposed to be the wiser one making all the right choices. I certainly can’t control him. I live over 150 miles way from him.

What do I worry about? In the morning I wonder what time he’ll roll out of bed. In the afternoon, I wonder who he’ll go see. He is home alone, because everyone else has a job. He’ll take his car (even though he lost his license) and drive down to the local bar. Meet some of his lowlife friends who he calls “good people”. Maybe make an exchange for a couple of pills. Who knows. I’ll call the house and get the answering machine. By the evening, he’ll come home (God only knows how he gets home in his inebriated state). No dinner - he’ll just go to bed.

My mind is constantly wondering and worrying about him and my other family members. I know that this is unhealthy for myself and I must let him live his own life.